Age of Deflection

ctIt seems to me that currently we are living in an Age of Deflection. Meaning instead of  reflecting on our lives, we deflect and focus on the lives of others. Sometimes it’s easier to pick apart others than to focus on what you need to work on. A lot of people find satisfaction in seeing someone else in a painful place. Think about all the attention that Britney Spears received and all the time and energy that people spent on her. People that did not even know her spent hours researching, reading and writing about her life. Imagine if these people spent that time building stronger relationships in their own life. Or just used that time to reflect on themselves and the goals that they want to acheive.  Furthermore, just as in grade school, some people pick on others that are  weaker than themselves to make themselves feel or look better. 

If you look around you, notice how instead of talking about what matters to us,  people are engrossed with pop idols and discussing their issues. I find it extremely hard to find a good sitcom to watch on the televison that is not reality related.  It is hard to imagine that ten years ago, these reality shows did not exist. Sitcoms have a moral lesson in each episode to teach the viewer many things through role modeling. For example, how to do the right thing and what could happen if you don’t. Think of all the sitcoms you watched growing up, who did you look up to? Do you remember the lessons that you got from “The Facts of Life”, “Cosby Show” or “Family Matters”. The messages relayed was  to listen to your elders, respect yourself, etc.  What are the lessons that are being taught to our youth from these reality shows? The lessons I see are: To do whatever it takes to win, including steal, use your sexuality, lie and cheat. How are these helping to build a strong moral code? The message of respecting yourself, others and having a good character seems to be a thing of the past.

The act of viewing these reality shows is comparable to watching the gladiators in their arena. We basically sit and watch people self destruct, turn on each other and make fools of themselves for our entertainment. It is easier for us to tune in to these shows and tune out of our own lives.


4 responses to “Age of Deflection

  1. Melissa,

    I agree that people do spend to much time worrying about others as a method to distract themselves from the issues in their own lives. I don’t think anyone has avoided doing so in their lives, certainly myself included.

    It’s the whole “misery loves company” concept at work.

    I would argue that Sit-Coms are still not the best role-models. I watch them, find them funny, but think kids can do better than to learn that the male father figure in all of these shows is always a bumbling idiot who couldn’t tie his shoes if his wife wasn’t there to help him. They also could stand to show women with rewarding careers a little more often.

    No argument that today’s TV leaves a lot to be desired, parental responsibility is the solution.

  2. We put a lot of things in between us and reflection. I’m thinking like crappy Alanis Morrissett songs at this point.

    As a guy who recently saw a poll come up about what people thought about my facial hair, I feel for this post.

    There’s a lot of ways we could all spend our time better.

    • Very true! There are a lot of creative outlets that we could use instead of obsessing over other people’s lives (most of those of whom we have never met e.g Britney Spears). Thank you for the feedback, although now I am wondering about whatever happened to Alanis…

  3. “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? …” (Matthew 7:1-5)

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